Over the next 12 weeks, I will be presenting an aspect of positivity or mindfulness for us to focus on. These are all topics that I am working on myself and focusing on myself to achieve a happier mindset and calmer state of being. I’ll have a blog post each week and then quotes on my social media networks to support that week’s theme. For more support, join my Positivity Facebook Community. The 12 weeks will all be on my Positive Thinking Page.
Welcome to week 6 of my positivity focus. Last week we focused on embracing the moment as if we chose it and not allowing stressful moments to accumulate into a stressful day. Rather, we release stress and re-start the day fresh, moment by moment. This avoids the feeling of a bad day or the idea that one bad thing after another is happening to us.
By using the techniques discussed in last week’s post (which you can catch up with right here) we keep our personal power and calm state by embracing our life moment by moment. By releasing stress as it comes and by embracing each moment as if we chose it.
These techniques are great moving forward but this week I want us to go back in time to forgive and release the hurt we have been holding onto. Whether it’s been for a few days or for years, let’s release it.
Release Yourself from Prison
I think most of us are holding onto some upset with a person or situation from our past. The initial harm came from an external source or person. But by holding onto the upset or anger, we continue to hurt ourselves. The person or situation that caused the harm isn’t suffering from it, we are! How crazy is that?
It doesn’t do us any good to hold onto the anger – what is it achieving? It is not teaching the other person a lesson. It’s causing us to feel bad. So what good is it?? It’s not good – no good comes from it!
So set yourself free – for your own good. Not because the other person has asked for forgiveness. Not because they necessarily deserve to be forgiven but because it’s what’s best for you. For your peace. For your state of mind. When you forgive, you release yourself from prison because it’s YOU who’s been holding the pain not the person you forgive. You get to have the release and move forward with peace.
Forgive Rather than Judge
I love these next two quotes so very much. They have become like mantras for me moving forward. Rather than holding onto anger, we forgive. And we hold our personal power in all situations, we don’t allow the actions of others to pull us down into anger or hate.
Releasing the Hurt
Sometimes when we have been holding onto pain for a long time it’s not easy to let it go. It might help to try a little mental ritual to help release the anger and hurt officially.
To begin, sit somewhere and breathe deeply and focus on your breathing to center yourself. You can say the forgiving and releasing words out loud or write them down. If you write them you can throw the paper away or tear it up or throw it into the fire.
Say or write who you forgive and for what. Then fully forgive the person or persons, including yourself if appropriate. Feel the pain and then imagine it leaving you and floating away or being exploded away. Imagine yourself in beautiful light or in a beautiful garden feeling calm and light without that anger or hurt with you anymore. What a relief to have it gone. To move forward in peace. To forgive and to release.
I’d love to hear your feedback on this week and if you find this helpful. I have quotes focusing on forgiveness and releasing the hurt we are holding onto this week, so follow Cuddle Fairy below for your daily dose of positivity. x